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Jasmine

Tuesday, Apr 10, 2018 - 03:30:33 pm

Q1- S-M sexting

In sadomasochism, behaviour can be categorized in binaries to derive pleasure and sexual gratification – sadism and masochism, where the former involves inflicting pain and the latter on the receiving end. This pain can come in various forms, such as emotional or physical. It is a provocative mean of sexual play but has to be consensual – a Read more →

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It's Raining Men!

Nurfaizah

Tuesday, Apr 10, 2018 - 03:30:33 pm

Q1. In popular culture, sadomasochism is considered to be a ‘kink’ (aka Fifty Shades of Grey) or a side sexual interest of serial killers in crime thrillers. However, in reality, it remains a poorly understood social phenomenon. (Newmahr, 2010) In consensual sadomasochistic scenes, participants who enact these humiliating and painful fantasies have to decide in advance on a ‘safe word’. (Cameron Read more →

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you can stand under my umbrella

Tan Jun Yi

Tuesday, Apr 10, 2018 - 03:30:31 pm

Julie and Mike are into sadomasochistic sexting. Which among these emojis is most likely their ‘safe emoji’? Why?

Pickle is most likely their ‘safe emoji’, as, compared to the rest, it is one that will stand out in context as relatively more incongruous and unambiguous.

As Cameron & Kulick (2003) explored in Language and Sexuality, the eroticising of power differences in consensual SM Read more →

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it's raining sex

Valerie

Tuesday, Apr 10, 2018 - 03:30:30 pm

I refer to the first question on sadomasochistic sexting and the possibility of which emoji being used as the safe emoji. Before I lay down my claim on that emoji, let’s first examine the context surrounding “safe emoji”.

The interpretation I have for a “safe emoji” is that it acts very much like a safe word during BDSM roleplay. In this Read more →

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Man umbrella

debs

Tuesday, Apr 10, 2018 - 03:30:29 pm

Q1: Safe words are an essential part of the (consensual) BDSM (Bondage/Domination/Sado-Masochism) lifestyle, wherein sexual fantasies of physical pain or humiliation are all too common. In sexual contexts such as these, SM practitioners have come up with a safety system using one or more ‘safe words’, in a bid to prevent any unexpected mishaps. A safe word is an utterance by Read more →

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It's raining men!

Tania

Tuesday, Apr 10, 2018 - 03:30:26 pm

Q-1. Sadomasochistic sexting.

The dynamics of sadomasochism involves submission that may involve humiliation and pain. Between the participants, one has to take on the role of subjugation and helplessness while the other party gets to enact authoritative, assertive and powerful behaviour. Saying ‘no’ in the discourse does not actually mean ‘stop’, contrary to the expected linguistic semantics. Read more →

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Safe Words and Locker Room Talk

Sera Goh

Tuesday, Apr 10, 2018 - 03:30:22 pm

SAFE WORD/EMOJI:

Sadomasochism, as defined by Cambridge Dictionary, is where people get pleasure from sadism and masochism – an activity that involves humiliation and pain, as described in Kulick’s Language and Sexuality. In his book, he discussed about how it is common practice for the sadomasochistic participants to decide on a ‘safe word’ in advance because normal words of resistance may Read more →

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Sho Khamsani

Tuesday, Apr 10, 2018 - 03:30:22 pm

Q-1

Julie and Mike are into sadomasochistic sexting. Which among these emojis is most likely their ‘safe emoji’? Why?

Before we go on to qualify and determine which of these would most likely be their safe emoji, let us first generally define sexting, look into its sadomasochistic variant and later examine the purpose of Read more →

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It's raining men

Azzam

Tuesday, Apr 10, 2018 - 03:30:21 pm

Question 1

? is most likely the safe emoji.

With the invention of emojis, one can express their desires without words. For example, ?? would mean “penetration” while ??? means “I’d like to put your genitals in my mouth until something pleasant happens“.

However, it is important that before sexting starts, both parties negotiate their roles and it must Read more →

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Saying 'Yes,' 'No', and Talking about Sex

Chloe Gan

Tuesday, Apr 10, 2018 - 03:30:18 pm

Sadomasochistic (SM) sexual practices often involve the fantasies of humiliation and pain, and the word ‘no’, or any form of resistance may simply be a part of the whole act. In certain SM situations, if the submissive partner offers no resistance, the dominant partner cannot enjoy the feelings of forcing the powerless partner, and the submissive partner is also Read more →

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In-Class Exam (Questions 2 & 3)

Joel Low

Tuesday, Apr 10, 2018 - 03:30:16 pm

Question 2

‘Locker room talk’ has become a highly stigmatized topic post-Trump, with many athletes coming out to publicly condemn Trump’s portrayal of locker room banter (Gregory, 2016). Naturally, this has sparked a new wave on focus on what ‘locker room talk’ actually is and what it is used for. Urban Dictionary proposes three definitions of ‘locker room banter’ that all Read more →

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Safe Emoji and Locker room talk

Simin

Tuesday, Apr 10, 2018 - 03:30:15 pm

Q-1

According to Psychology today, sadomasochism uses the pain or humiliation element for/ as sexual arousal. In sadomasochism, these taboo desires are allowed to expressed freely. As Cameron and Kulick (2003) describes, a consensual sadomasochistic activities, a safe word is often decided to indicate ‘stop’  because of how ‘No’ in this case can indexes something else, like for one to go Read more →

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It's raining men

Sharon Ng

Tuesday, Apr 10, 2018 - 03:30:13 pm

Q1)

Sado-masochism (BDSM) practices involve a variety of erotic practices often involving role-playing, bondage, dominance and submission between two or more sexual parties. BDSM is built on the enjoyment of extreme intercourse activities, often inflicting pain or humiliation, which participants derive sexual pleasure from (Damm, Dentato & Busch, 2017). There is the presence of a power structure between participants, where Read more →

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sticks and stones

Clara

Tuesday, Apr 10, 2018 - 03:30:10 pm

Question 1: Sadomasochistic Sexting

Sadomasochism  (SM) is often defined as the receiving or giving of sexual pleasure that involves physical pain or humiliation, and is sometimes viewed as an enhancement to sexual pleasure.While the point of SM is to enjoy the act of inflicting or receiving pain, this act of pleasure should not go beyond the point where it Read more →

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Safe emojis & are "locker room talks" our desires?

darwinshia

Tuesday, Apr 10, 2018 - 03:30:04 pm

Q1. I feel that in the first place, a safe word for sadomasochistic sexting is not necessary since how “unsafe” or “dangerous” can it be. If you are feeling uncomfortable, you can simply just stop replying for a few hours and the other party might probably get it.

In Henkin & Holiday, 1996’s advice on choosing a safe word, words other than Read more →

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