A bromance is a close, platonic relationship shared intimately by two men (or in this case, bros). Many times, this feeling of affection and emotional connection stems from sharing commonly “masculine” domains like sports, games or girls. A bromance is largely underpinned by a universally acknowledged but unspoken “bro code”. However, the “bro code” is commonly extended and can be Read more →
Got money out the ass, no homo but I’m rich.
Without a doubt, the phrase “no homo” has made its way into mainstream culture, even as the Guardian explores how acknowledging one’s love for a bro is an act of courage and vulnerability, just like the act of coming out.
As men become more comfortable with expressing themselves to other Read more →
Bromance is a very close relationship between men who consider themselves ‘brothers’.
we seem to have a compulsion and obsession about organising and categorising everything; applying standards and distinguishing markers about almost anything and everything.
bromance is essentially a close-knit, markedly more emotional connection shared between (usually) two males (WORK IN PROGRESS)
“If you haven’t, you’re a prude. If you have, you’re a slut. It’s a trap.”
The Breakfast Club came out in 1985 and surprise, what Allison Reynolds said then is still alive and well 30 years later.
Slut-shaming or prude-shaming is both a phenomenon that polices how women choose or don’t choose, to express themselves sexually. And they are both problematic as Read more →
‘As soon as older feminists had won sexual liberation, patriarchy reframed it as sexual availability for men.’ Here, the author discusses how ‘intergenerational battles over feminism come down to the meaning of consent.’
In her discussion of male pleasure and female pain, Lili Loofbourow puts forward a compelling argument that ‘[w]omen are enculturated to be uncomfortable most of the time. And to ignore their discomfort.’ Any thoughts on this?
In class, we talked about the proliferation of labels used to describe (and perhaps even fix) different ‘sexual identities’, and how these have been useful in mobilizing members of the so-called ‘sexual minorities’ to fight the stigma and claim their rights. These labels, however, have shown to be controversial, and they have been the topic Read more →
Sex is often taboo, and it is not uncommon that we talk about it using metaphors. Here’s a text about the ‘baseball model’ of sex and sexuality which is prevalent in American society. The article provides a critical take on the baseball sexual metaphor and contrasts it with a hypothetical ‘pizza metaphor’. Any thoughts Read more →
I actually never realised that the baseball metaphor was something more complicated than it seemed. I first heard of bases while reading Western books and watching films where teenage boys talked about “reaching 3rd base” and to me, it just seemed like another level of sexual contact or intimacy that one should reach with their partner. However, after reading this article, what struck me most about this whole baseball metaphor was the idea that there was a winning side and losing side- the losing side being the women?? The conquering, the achieving of another base, another ‘score’ seems to objectify women as merely a game. It doesn’t construct sexual intercourse as a consensual milestone, equally significant to both parties in the relationship, but rather just a means of securing a social status or dominance about one’s masculinity and capability. So yes, women end up being on the losing side because perhaps her value ends up being cheapened in this competition to get to the top the fastest. However, this metaphor isn’t something I commonly hear in our local context. Perhaps this is because baseball isn’t a game we resonate with. That being said, I do believe that this whole idea of achieving the bases does exist in Singapore, but perhaps is conveyed through other slang. One such term that could be similar to this is the need to “up your game”, meaning that one needs to improve themselves, do better and get better at achieving more points in whatever aspect it may be in.